Backbiting : Hurting the Feelings of Others

I am a victim of mental abuse - Backbiting

Psychological Struggle Within The Mind

You can’t chose what life throws at you, but you can chose how you respond.

Mental abuse is so much more painful than physical abuse, because you are consumed by your own thoughts. That Feel Broken Inside.

Of course. I am upset but this is part of life. "Life is full of imperfect things...And imperfect people..."

Whatever you do, good or bad, people will always find something to say. So at the end, the best thing to do is to live to please the creator, and not his creation.

110. Abu Mas’ud Uqbah bin Amr Al-Ansari (May Allah be pleased with him) said:

When the Ayah enjoining Sadaqah (charity) was revealed,* we used to carry loads on our backs to earn something that we could give away in charity. One person presented a considerable amount for charity and the hypocrites said: "He has done it to show off.'' Another one gave away a few Sa` of dates and they said: "Allah does not stand in need of this person's dates". Thereupon, it was revealed: "Those who defame such of the believers who give charity (in Allah's Cause) voluntarily, and such who could not find to give charity (in Allah's Cause) except what is available to them...'' (9:79) [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

You can’t change how people feel about you, so don’t try. Just live your life and be happy.

Remember! never be a victim of inner conflict. It will kill you. Resolve your inner conflict for peaceful life.

Log tumhare bare mein kya sochte hain aur kya kehte hain iski fikar mat karen.

Isko Kehte Hain Emotional Intelligent

Don’t think or focus on…. Free yourself from your own thoughts

Dangers Of Backbiting


1527. "All of a Muslim is prohibited to another Muslim : his blood, his honor and his property." [ Muslim ]

"Whoever averts [an attack] from the honor of his brother, Allah will avert the fire from his face on the Day of Arising." [Tirmidhi (Hasan)]

Gossiping and spreading tales is a very common disease found in our societies but what is actually alarming is that Allah Himself has cursed the ones who gossip and slander. Allah said in the Holy Quran:

"Woe to every slanderer and backbiter." (Quran, 104:1)

1523. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Do you know what is backbiting?'' The Companions said: "Allah and His Messenger know better.'' Thereupon he said, "Backbiting is talking about your (Muslim) brother in a manner which he dislikes.'' It was said to him: "What if my (Muslim) brother is as I say.'' He said, "If he is actually as you say, then that is backbiting; but if that is not in him, that is slandering.'' [Muslim].

Backbiting is greater than adultery

"Beware of backbiting, for backbiting is more serious than adultery. A man may commit adultery, and drink [wine], and then repent, and Allah will forgive him. But, the backbiter will not be forgiven by Allah until his [backbited] companion forgives him." [Suyuti, Al-Jami` as-Saghir, 1/174, #2919, from Ibn Abid-Dunya, and Abush-Shaykh. Al Tawbikh

When you commit adultery you can ask Allah for forgiveness and Allah can forgive you but when you backbite someone Allah cannot forgive you unless the person.

O you who believe, abstain from many of the suspicions. Some suspicions are sins. And do not be curious (to find out faults of others), and do not backbite one another. Does one of you like that he eats the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it. And fear Allah. Surely Allah is Most-Relenting, Very-Merciful. (Quran 49:12)

1526. Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "During the Mi`raj (the Night of Ascension), I saw a group of people who were scratching their chests and faces with their copper nails. I asked, `Who are these people, O Jibril?' Jibril replied: `These are the people who ate flesh of others (by backbiting) and trampled people's honour.''' [Abu Dawud].

Another worst thing, I tell you, is that you ACTUALLY transer your good deeds to the one you HATE. Another LOSS.

When You Feel Broken Inside Don't Worry         Rights Will Be Given To Oppressed


Wait Rights Will Be Given To Oppressed

The grip of your Lord is indeed severe. (Quran 85:12)

And everything (from their deeds) is thoroughly recorded by Us in writing. (Quran 78:29)

( Narrated in Saheeh Muslim, #2582, and Mosnad Ahmad, #7163 ) Prophet said: {On the Day of Judgment, rights will be given to those to whom they are due (and wrongs will be redressed)...}

204. Abu Hurairah (May Allah bepleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "On the Resurrection Day, the rights will be paid to those to whom they are due so much so that a hornless sheep will be retaliated for by punishing the horned sheep which broke its horns". [Muslim].

So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant), shall see it. And whosoever does evil equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant), shall see it. (Qur’an 99 : 7 – 8)

Wait patiently for your Lords judgement;… (Quran 68:48)

Saheeh al-Jaami #1900: The Prophet Muhammad PBUH said "On the Day of Judgement Allah will torture those who tortured people in this World."

Aye Rub Tujh Pe Choddiya Sab

                     Backbiting means actually transer your good deeds to the one you HATE.    Big Loss                     

So let my enemies say what they will for my sins are many and perhaps because of their backbiting and slander my sins will be lightened and instead fall upon their shoulders.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 3, Book 43, Number 629: Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation or anything else, he should beg him to forgive him before the Day of Resurrection. When there will be no money (to compensate for wrong deeds),But if he has good deeds, those good deeds will be taken from him according to his oppression which he has done, and if he has no good deeds, the sins of the oppressed person will be loaded on him .

210. Abu Hurairah (May Allah bepleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "He who has done a wrong affecting his brother's honour or anything else, let him ask his forgiveness today before the time (i.e., the Day of Resurrection) when he will have neither a dinar nor a dirham. If he has done some good deeds, a portion equal to his wrong doings will be subtracted from them; but if he has no good deeds, he will be burdened with the evil deeds of the one he had wronged in the same proportion". [Al-Bukhari].

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do you know who is bankrupt?” They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet said, “Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire.” (Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2581)

Thank You Very Much My Dear Backbiter...

Show Patience - Reward Of Patience Paradise

92. Az-Zubair bin `Adi said: We went to Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) and complained to him of suffering at the hands of Al-Hajjaj. He replied: "Show endurance, for no time will come but will be followed by one worse (than the present one) till you meet your Rubb. I heard this from your Prophet (PBUH)." [Al-Bukhari]

And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace, (Qur’an 25 : 63)

And when they hear vain talk, they turn away therefrom and say: "To us our deeds, and to you yours; peace be to you: we seek not the ignorant." (Quran 28:55)

And (ask) of the Sinners: "What led you into Hell-Fire?" They will say: "We were not of those who prayed;" "Nor were we of those who fed the indigent;" "But we used to talk vanities with vain talkers;" (Quran 74:41-45)

...and show patience in hardship and adversity, and in times of distress. Such are the true believers;... (Quran 2:177)

"Those will be rewarded with the highest place [in Paradise] because of their patience.." (Quran-25:75)

...Surely whoever is pious and (endures) patiently, then surely Allah does not waste the reward of the fair-doers." (Quran 12:90)

…surely Allah does not waste the reward of the doers of good; (Quran 9:120)

It is difficult to be patient. But to waste the reward of patience is Worse.

Collapsibles Text      Severs Relations Will Not Enter Paradise

If you focus on the hurt you will continue to suffer, but if you focus on ... Deeds which will come through backbit you will feel happy...

Free Yourself From Your Own Thoughts


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